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not that person understand i'm just trying to think of what will i do when i fly into the next rage like when i'm really convinced again what is this strat i'm trying to take home a strategy you know yeah well, you know just work with work with mind and um you get to find out on time so let's turn it around he's not faithful to me when he's with her turn it around he's faithful to me when he's with her could be just as true he keeps coming back to you there's another turn around he's not faithful to me when he's with her i i'm not faithful to him when he's with her you tear him to shreds in your mind in your mind you're probably planning every way to leave him and make him suffer make him suffer attack attack attack you're not thankful to him when he's with her so you project he's doing the very same thing but i think he's not being faithful to me turned around ah i'm not being faithful to him for all i know they didn't even hook up today so sweetheart there's another turn around he's not faithful to me when he's with her i i'm not faithful to myself when he's with her tell me about that when where did your mind go i try to do a lot of work with jealousy to understand what it is and what it seems like it has something to do with me placing my sense of the beloved out under someone else sense of the beloved instead of keeping it with me it's like when you love him you love you for loving him yeah when you don't like him you don't like you for not liking him because he is your projected and you are the project door he is only who you believe him to be and until you question your mind you live with the enemy and it gets very confusing because you love him so you question the mind it leaves only that connection but the beloved the beloved always faithful to yourself and when you're not there's an enemy and the attempt at your own innocence you attack let's look at the next one my boyfriend and the ex girlfriend shouldn't cheat me out of intimacy turn it around should cheat me out of intimacy well up to now so i shouldn't i shouldn't cheat myself out of intimacy with him and yourself and her you don't have to go there yet we're just walking just walking through your does it really help to just say the words i mean it's just words at this honey you don't know what's going on you have no idea what's going on you don't know yeah let's look at the next one i need my boyfriend to see that i'm enough he doesn't see that you're enough is that true well, he goes i mean he has other free you know are there women friends that he's that you know that he's intimate with you know not sexually but emotionally and to me that's the same it's like where do you draw the line you know he sounds like a well adjusted human being he is read it again i need my boyfriend to see that i am enough he doesn't see that you're enough for him is that true to me it's proof that if he needs to have other friends do you have other friends? if he asked me to not have those friends i would do it in a second yes, i do have other friends but i don't i i feel like it's different for women and men i don't know it's so you would think give up all of your friends if he asked you to do that is that really yeah i don't need them i'm like i talk to them once in a while on email or like a phone call once a year you know friend in terms of past boyfriends you know and i'm talking about friends and so if it were the reverse other male friends do i have other male friends that i hang out with and that i'm intimate with no that wasn't a question do i have other friends yes okay and you would give them up if he asked you to yeah why would you do that because i really want this relationship to be everything it can be and if you gave them all up that would make him happen can you absolutely know that that's true i mean this is just too far out he hasn't even asked that it's you that's asking that yeah because i want death from him yeah is that true you want him to give up his whole world and just focus on you no it's not true so just sit with that you know you're getting to know you you are the woman who does not want him to give up his friends but when then when their situations where it's really threatening i do want that i do want him to step out of those scenarios it goes like this the way he lives is okay for you the reason that i know it's okay for you is that you stay it's okay with you because you stay when it's not okay with you you go so so far it's okay with you so as long as you're there let's work on it let's look at the next one i need the ex girlfriend to stop trying to charm my boyfriend and seduce him and try to get his attention so turn it around i need to stop trying to charm him and seducing him and getting his attention tell me about that so you can hear it i don't even think of very charming i mean when i fly into these rages i'm pretty not charming i really get that so tell me about the other part where you try to seduce him with your charm so he will not have it these other friends yeah i want to be the only thing for i want to be the main thing for him i want to know that i matter to him so you turn into the seducer the the what does it say here the charmer, the charmer tries to get his attention that sounds like a lot of effort yeah and when that doesn't work you attack i attack and in the past i leave you know so you think that they do what you do you're projecting your actions your falseness onto them but i've seen them do it too oh really as they're talking to him you have to project that nothing else is possible so tell me in front of you give me an example of how someone tried to seduce him in front of you what did she say what did she do this is really uncomfortable for me you know what i'm doing here it's like where's your proof okay we're all musicians and we were at a new year's eve club a club on new year's eve playing a a show together and she's a backup singer in his band and after the show she did many things on stage which i had to excuse because it's in the name of showmanship like rub up against him and all that stuff that i just that makes me go crazy and then uh after the show they got really drunk and i don't drink so it was it even there there was like a barrier i couldn't relate to where they were and they were really uh you know having a lot just partying and having a good time it's not a way to me it's not a good time what did she say or do that led you to believe she was trying to seduce him, he and her boyfriend were sort of paling it up and like being really affectionate and hugging and stuff and so she came over to me and in a very very sexualized jester came over and started like pretending like she was making out with me to make fun of them and so then he turned to me and said said something that's too crude to say here and i know he was drunk and i know that she was drunk you realize that that has nothing to do with the question that i ask but that's what she tried to do to seduce him, that's what she tried that's what she did to get his attention that's what she did to charm him, that's what she was doing it doesn't sound like it charmed him, it did it it had exactly the reaction she wanted i don't get it but you do so let's look at the next one。


