what happened? oh no! no! no! that's mommy's favorite bowl! what happened? i was trying to get up banana then it's just slipped oh, you okay! yeah! you didn't get hurt right? no! i think mommy's grandma gave her this it's okay! it was an accident right? yeah! so it's okay! don't worry about it i guess we should clean this up right? yeah, all right! don't move from there okay, okay! i'm gonna clean it up daddy i'm very sorry oh, i know buddy don't worry about it okay! it was an accident ah how we gonna tell mommy? um have any ideas but you're gonna get a new one a new one yeah! that's a good idea but this one i don't think you can buy this one in the store anymore why because this one was really old? i'm pretty sure mommy's grandma gave it to her but we could go find one that looks similar to it all right let me finish up cleaning and we'll go get one that looks just like it yeah, all right! and i hope mommy won't be mad at us us you broke it i'm just helping you out what that looks like it ooh? this does look like it you think this will work yeah, okay! cool! let's get this ooh wait i have an idea what we should get mommy a backup present to make her less mad at you that's a great idea i feel bad tricking her should we tell you the truth all right? let's tell you the truth whatever happens it was an accident right yep mommy um tyna says something to tell you mommy that's a noople it is could you guys get a new bowl yeah! what happened to the other bowl do you want to tell her what happened oh, i tried to get a banana but it fell and it broke he broke i'm very sorry mommy it's okay buddy but we got you stumpy you got me stuff there we go christmas coasters you want it i love these。
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孩子吃饭时不小心把碗给打翻了,作为父母,你们会怎么做?第一种,你怎么那么不小心啊?吃个饭都能把碗给打翻, 你还能干什么呀?把碗打坏了怎么办?以后再打饭碗,你饭别吃了。第二种呢,碗打碎了你没事吧?有没有烫到你?没关系的,我们下次注意点就行。 这两种反应呢,是很常见的,对于孩子打翻碗这件事情,第一,我们应该把它当做一个失误,而不是一个错误。第二,对于孩子的失误或者错误,我们家长的处理方式一定要是一个闭环,有一个完整的流程。 那么问题来了,第二种的处理方式就够了吗?就达到我们所谓的闭环的要求了吗?那我们看一下上述两种反应一般会有什么效果。第一种,指责训斥孩子。古人说饭前不训子, 在孩子吃饭的时候训斥孩子,肯定会影响孩子的心情,那孩子吃饭的时候也不开心,脾气犟一点的孩子是直接就饭都不吃了。 第二呢,指责训斥会让孩子吃饭的时候产生压力感和恐惧感,你每骂一次孩子就多一次恐惧,结果就是孩子他一拿到碗,他就会紧张,他大脑提取的信息就是吃饭打碎碗会被骂。那,那 这时候就会出现我们常说的,你越怕什么就越会来什么,更严重的会让孩子产生一种误解,会认为,哎,我居然没有那个碗重要。所以在孩子打翻碗的时候,父母可千万不要去训斥他。 第二种反应呢,就明显比第一种反应好很多,在孩子不小心打翻碗的时候,父母第一个表达出的是对孩子的关心,那在 这个时候孩子能感受到,哎,其实父母更在意的是我,而不是那个碗。其次呢,不会给孩子带来压力,孩子也不会对拿碗吃饭这件事感到恐惧,他知道了,而我下次注意些就行了, 但是下次注意就行了,这样就够了吗?孩子是真的明白了吗?他下次是否真的就会做了,知道怎么再去避免。


oh, no, no, no you okay, yeah! you didn't get hurt right? no! that's mommy's favorite boy what happened i was trying to get up on anna let us just slip make mommy's grandma gave her this it's okay! there's accident right yeah so it's okay don't worry about it well, i guess we should clean this up right yeah all right don't move from there okay! look daddy i'm very sorry oh, i know buddy don't worry about it okay it was an accident how are we gonna tell mommy? i know my thoughts exactly have any ideas we should go get a new one a new one yeah that's a good idea but this one i don't think you can buy this one in the store anymore why because this one was really old i'm pretty sure mommy's grandma gave it to her, but we could go find one that looks similar to it yeah should we go do that yeah all right let me finish up cleaning and we'll go get one that looks just like it boss you broke it i'm just helping you out that looks like it what that looks like it ooh? this does look like it it's a work wait i have an idea what we should get mommy a backup? present to give her in case she notices that's not her bowl to make her less mad at you that's a great idea all right i feel bad tricking her should we tell you the truth yeah all right let's tell you the truth whatever happens it was an accident right mommy yeah um tiny said something to tell you mommy that's a noble it is did you guys get a new bowl yeah what happened to the other bowl? do you want to tell her what happened oh i tried to get up on naila but it fell i broke get it broke remember you sorry mommy it's okay buddy but we got you stommy oh it's okay i love you。

孩子吃饭时打碎碗怎么办?一种父母会破口大骂你怎么这么笨,连碗都拿不好。还有一种父母思想上接受了新一代教育的浪潮,以赏识教育为主。 他赶紧关心孩子有没有受伤,碗打碎了没关系,只要孩子不受伤就行。其实这两种方式都是不可取,都是 片面的,不利于孩子正确人格的形成。今天,我的身边就出现了这样一件事情。一个三年级的女孩子不小心把碗打碎了。 厨房的阿姨没有任何的批评和安慰之类的话,而是直接把打碎的碗清扫掉了。事后,我把孩子喊过来,问他这件事情发生的前因后果。他低着头开始吱吱, 想推卸责任。我知道他是害怕我责备他。在我的鼓励下,他主动承认了这个碗是他打碎的,愿意拿出自己的零花钱作为赔偿。对他这种敢于承担的精神,我及时给予了肯定,表扬了他, 告诉他你是一个敢于承担后果,有担当的孩子。我思考了一下,对他说对你的表现,我也承诺你下面端正好学习态度,好好学习,争取期末考试取得优异的成绩,老师拿出这份钱来奖励给你。 女孩子抬起头来,泛着泪花的脸上露出了惊讶和感动的深情。我的几句再平常不过的话,对于一个这个时候犯错的孩子来说,有着很大的作用。 其实在我们生活中,每天都发生着许多的事情,在于我们怎样来对待。


what happened? where's the accident? oh, no! no! no! that's mommy's favorite bowl! what happened? i was trying to get up banana then it just slipped oh, no! you okay! yeah! you didn't get hurt right? no! i think mommy's grandma gave her this it's okay! it was an accident right yeah! so it's okay! don't worry about it i guess we should clean this up! right! yeah, all right! don't move from there okay, okay! i'm gonna clean it up! how are we gonna tell mommy was you gonna get a new one a new one yeah! that's a good idea but this one i don't think you can buy this one in the store anymore why because this one was really old? i'm pretty sure mommy's grandma gave it to her but we could go find one that looks similar to it yeah! should we go do that yeah all right! let me finish up cleaning and we'll go get one that looks just like it yeah, all right! and i hope mommy won't be mad at us us you broke it i'm just helping you out ooh this does look like it okay! cool! let's get this yeah all right! ooh wait i have an idea what we should get mommy a backup? present we should get her a mob she loves mugs yeah! i feel bad trick in her should we tell her the truth yeah! let's tell her the truth whatever happens it was an accident right? yep mommy tiny says something to tell you mommy that's a nooble it is did you guys get a new bowl yeah! what happened to the other bowl? do you want to tell her what happened? oh i tried to get that banana i bought it foul and it broke it broke very sorry mommy it's okay buddy but we got you something you got me stuff yeah go get it go get it go get it here we come here and say sorry again mommy sorry again mommy oh it's okay oh it's your name it's my name sorry again mommy oh it's okay! i love you mama i love you。